[사고의오류] 8 Toxic Beliefs to Get Rid of !

8 toxic thoughts happy people would never have (so you shouldn't either)

 

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1) The present is indicate of the future

When things aren't going well, it's common to believe that your life will always be like this. The funny thing is, when things are going great, we believe that something will stop it frorrm continuing to be great.

We think that happiness is fleeting. we believe that it will only get worse. 

But this is a self-fulfilling prophecy and it's foggy judgement. Nothing remains fixed. 

So, wipe that dirty lens that view the world as only getting worse. Have optimism and hope that it will change for the better.

2) It's too late to make changes

Just because you're not happy with your job right now, doesn't mean you can't make a change and try something new. It doesn't matter how old you are.

You're allowed to backtrack in life. You're allowed to figure out what's right for you.

3) Being vulnerable is dangerous

We are afraid to feel fear, vulnerability tot the fullest extent because we're pessimistic about how we'll react.

However, progess only can occur when yoou step out of your comfort zone. and the only way you'll be able to do that is by embracing imperfection and accepting that you're going to feel uncomfortable.

So embrace who you are and every feelings you have. You might find that it leads to opportunities and insights that you never thought that were previoously possible.

4) Being alone is a problem

As Buddism says, happiness can only come from within yourself, so stop seeking external factors to make you happy. Realize that being comfortable with yourself is the greatest asset that you'll ever have in your life:)

5) Fitting in is a good thing

The only way you'll ever be truly happy is if you're your real self. So embrace who you really are and forget about being someone else because it pleases only other people. It's a known fact that the happiest people are the authentic people.

6) There's a perfect peson out there for me

Bullshit. We need to realize that there's no such thing as perfection. Yes, you are going to find someone you love, but they will have flaws, just like you do. With a little patience and open mind, you'll begin to realize that these imperfections really are waht makes life beautiful.

7) What everyone does to you is personal

Some of us tend to think that anything happening to us is a direct assault on us. 

The truth is, the world isn’t out to get you and neither are other people. What people think about you says more about them then it does about you. We all have a lens with which we see the world, so choose yours to be optimistic and hopeful. 

8) You should never be sad

most of us believe that if we’re feeling negative emotions, then there’s something wrong with us. But it’s impossible to be positive all the time. You need to accept your negative emotions because if you don’t, it’ll come back to bite you back 10 tens harder. 

Happiness isn’t about being positive all the time. It’s about embracing life as it is and accepting who you are.